ScreamFree Parenting

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I’ve recently been reading ScreamFree Parenting. I’m about 1/3 of the way through the book, and I think that I will quit now since the rest of the book seems geared toward preteens and teens: discussions on respect, privacy, etc.

One of the chapters started with this idea: What kids need are parents who do not NEED their kids.

I have no idea how I feel about that statement. What are your thoughts?

Below is a review of the book if anyone is interested:

ScreamFree Parenting is not just about lowering your voice. It’s about learning to calm your emotional reactions and learning to focus on your own behavior more than your kids’ behavior . . . for their benefit. Our biggest enemy as parents is not the TV, the Internet, or even drugs. Our biggest enemy is our own emotional reactivity. When we say we “lost it” with our kids, the “it” in that sentence is our own adulthood. And then we wonder why our kids have so little respect for us, why our kids seem to have all the power in the family.

It’s time to do it differently. And you can. You can start to create and enjoy the types of calm, mutually respectful, and loving relationships with your kids that you’ve always craved. You can begin to revolutionize your family, starting tonight.

Parenting is not about kids, it’s about parents.
If you’re not in control, then you cannot be in charge.
What every kid really needs are parents who are able to keep their cool no matter what.

Easier said than done? Not anymore, thanks to ScreamFree Parenting, the principle-based approach that’s inspiring parents everywhere to truly revolutionize their family dynamics. Moving beyond the child-centered, technique-based approaches that ultimately fail, the ScreamFree way compels you to:

focus on yourself
calm yourself down, and
grow yourself up

By staying calm and connected with your kids, you begin to operate less out of your deepest fears and more out of your highest principles, revolutionizing your relationships in the process.


2 thoughts on “ScreamFree Parenting

    Tina said:
    February 3, 2009 at 12:03 pm

    I shouldn’t comment at the moment because I really want to go get my wooden spoon and slap it on the bottom of the child I can’t get up to go to seminary!!! Calm down, calm down . . . . I’m just taking away his car for the day, he doesn’t really NEED it does he?

    LeeAnn Volk said:
    February 4, 2009 at 6:37 pm

    “Parent’s who do not need their kids” What an interesting statement. I interpret that to mean, “can I live life without them, because eventually they will leave my home and I will have too.” The resounding answer is YES! YES! YES!

    Hey Tina,
    When your done with the wooden spoon send it my way. I’ve a bum I’d like touse it on too.

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